September 18, 2014

When people talk about their relationships the word trust often comes up. Trust is delicate. It can be fragile but what if everyone on the planet always is trustworthy somewhere? Maybe they can be trusted to tell the truth, to be a great lover, a good listener, a loving parent, or an expert runner?

What to look for:

Where do they follow through?

What are they an expert in?

What are they consistently committed to?

Don’t define people by their shortcomings:

In my own life and for many couples that I coach, I hear that it seems easier to find places where not to trust people than it is to find areas to trust people. This tendency to look for the areas not to trust people vs. looking for areas where you CAN trust is damaging to relationships; to say the least.

Consider that you will find whatever you are looking for. If you want to prove that someone is not trustworthy you will certainly be able to prove yourself right. The opposite is also true, in that you can always find at least one area where you can trust the person.

Start with yourself

How trustworthy do you consider yourself? Become someone who can rely on yourself through your thoughts, words, and actions when you want another person to be more reliable or trustworthy.

Stay connected and TRUST.