Valentine’s Day breakdown doesn’t have to be a break up

Valentine’s Day is coming and sometimes this holiday of love and romance can create triggers for couples, and manifest in breakdowns or break ups. Before finalizing that Valentine’s Day-triggered break up, consider these five questions:

1. What’s the ideal outcome for this situation?
2. Have I asked for and communicated my feelings, wants and needs without using blame or threats?
3. What is my part in the conflict or breakdown?
4. Am I willing to do my part in making this situation work for everyone involved?
5. Have I done everything I can from a calm and clear emotional space to make this relationship work?